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Diet Differences, Love on the Rocks

I’m single and believe it or not, one of my date criteria is diet. If you’re a meat and potatoes kind of girl, it’s not going work. Now, there's more to this, Kate Murphy of The New York Times proves that diet differences can muck up a relationship. Take a look:
Ben Abdalla, 42, a real estate agent in Boca Raton, Fla., said he preferred to date fellow vegetarians because meat eaters smell bad and have low energy.

Lisa Romano, 31, a vegan and school psychologist in Belleville, N.Y., said she recently ended a relationship with a man who enjoyed backyard grilling. He had no problem searing her vegan burgers alongside his beef patties, but she found the practice unenlightened and disturbing.

Her disapproval “would have become an issue later even if it wasn’t in the beginning,” Ms. Romano said. “I need someone who is ethically on the same page.”

While some eaters may elevate morality above hedonism, others are suspicious of anyone who does not give in to the pleasure principle.

June Deadrick, 40, a lobbyist in Houston, said she would have a hard time loving a man who did not share her fondness for multicourse meals including wild game and artisanal cheeses. “And I’m talking cheese from a cow, not that awful soy stuff,” she said.
Okay, here’s a true story. Last spring I met a nice girl. Smart, sweet, cute, sexy—perfect! Now, I later found out she was a total basket case, but here’s another list of reasons why I had to break it off. Brace yourself:
  • Drake’s Coffee Cakes
  • Pizza
  • Chicken Parmesan
  • Coca-Cola
  • Lipton Brisk
  • Sara Lee Chocolate Chip Cookies
  • Sun Chips
  • Cheese
  • White Bread
And the list goes on. The truth is I can’t be with somebody that eats that junk—I just can’t. Here’s my barometer. If a girl eats mushrooms, chances are she’s my kind of gal. So, if you’re 20-something, love mushrooms, and hate cheese—I’m yours!
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Walter Pittman - February 15, 2008 10:41 AM

Yes, bring on Food Puritanism, the new social Holy War!!

Try a little tolerance, guy. The girl you dated only ate what 90% of the people in this nation eat. Instead of shunning someone wonderful because of her thoughtless eating habits, why not just go with her with the intention of gradually enlightening her? (right--she wasn't so wonderful after all. But maybe she got tired of hearing your food rants).

Don't turn healthy eating into a quasi-religion, and junk food eaters into followers of the devil. Junk food eaters are VICTIMS (of big business and of culture). And, despite what you believe, cheese and meat are good food when eaten in moderation. Every traditional diet included various amounts of meat and/or cheese. And NOT ONE of the several European extreme centenarians eat or ate a vegan diet or anywhere near the amount of vegetables and fruits you recommend.

kpomer - February 15, 2008 11:18 AM

Maybe love-connections could be a side business here at Disease Proof? Finding someone who shares your eating ethics can be REALLY hard. Fortunately, I found another lifelong generation and we are now raising third-generation vegetarians!

Gerry Pugliese - February 15, 2008 11:54 AM

Hey Walter-

I think you went a little off the deep end with that comment. You're making a lot of assumptions.

The way I eat isn't just a "diet" its basically a lifestyle. Not only do eat the healthfully, but I also exercise a lot and meditate often.

Someone who doesn't share these interests; i.e. eats fast food, doesn't exercise, and has angry issues (for example). Probably isn't going to want to be with me--know what I mean?

As far as centenarians go. The more plant foods you eat and the less animal foods you eat, the healthier you'll be, period.


Gerry Pugliese - February 15, 2008 11:55 AM

Hey Kpomer-

Good for you! Actually, I've been dating more vegetarians lately, but still working on a match. :)


Jordan - February 15, 2008 12:23 PM

Hey Gerry. Off topic, but I saw this and thought of you all.


Have a great weekend!

Paige - February 15, 2008 1:34 PM

I'm someone who started dating a junk food eater. In the beginning it really scared me. I was worried that if it continued and we got married, had kids, etc., that he would want to feed them junk. Very long-term thoughts to be having at the beginning of a relationship, yes, but no one wants to waste their time. However, I've slowly talked him over to something very much like ETL, with slightly more whole grains, and he's lost nearly 20 pounds in the first 6 weeks and says he feels so much better!

Gerry Pugliese - February 15, 2008 1:39 PM

Hey Paige-

Thats fantastic! Kudos to him! If I could get something going like that, that would be a great, but this particular girl thought I was nuts for eating the way I eat. So converting her was hopeless.

Besides, she tried to move in with me after a MONTH! Feets don't fail me now!!


Sara - February 16, 2008 10:33 PM

It certainly is much easier to be with a person who shares your lifestyle particularly food. There are people in member center with spouses who don't eat the way we do and its harder for them. And the stories about junk food roomates. I can't imagine living with a man who ate burgers and fries all the time.

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