The Powerful Snare of Compromise

An “I blew it” moment is not the end of the world.  It's a miniscule blimp on the radar screen of a long journey called health; humbly reminding us that we are living, breathing, human-beings.  

It all starts with getting little nicks and dents in the neat picket fence around us called "boundaries."  The purpose of a boundary is to keep us safe.  The nutritional wisdom and guidelines in Dr. Fuhrman’s books, newsletters, teleconferences, etc., if followed, keep us safe.

Even though the boundary fence may seem restrictive at times, especially in the beginning of the journey when still heavily addicted to toxic foods, and continually surrounded by the deceptive lures of this culture, we know there’s safety, freedom, optimal health, and many pleasurable perks within the picket fence.  (Like the opportunity to give away plus size clothing or go jogging with the kids.)

We don't just wake up one day and "blow it" big time with careless eating. 

An "I blew it" moment starts with a seemingly insignificant, almost unnoticeable compromise.

We may close our eyes and overlook tiny compromises for a few days, or perhaps they have been allowed to simmer for a few weeks; however long, we have planted the seeds of compromise, and they have been sprouting growth nonetheless.

"Oh," we say, "What's the harm in a little compromise?  Don't be so scrupulous." 

That, my friend, is the deception. 

If we sow a seemingly insignificant compromise, over time, it will grow into a bigger, seemingly insignificant compromise.  Over time again, it will grow bigger and bigger, until one day, the taste buds are aroused into full swing, the stomach is stretched to capacity, and we wake up totally engulfed in the psychological and physiological power of toxic food addiction.

Slip ups are those impulsive moments, well, we just slip up.  If we recognize, acknowledge, and quickly continue on we’ll be totally fine even with those little imperfections here and there along the way.

Compromises, on the other hand, are those intentional choices to step outside the boundary fence; denying the danger of the power of psychological and physiological addiction.
Seeds of compromise sown into the soil of our lives will eventually produce a harvest of addiction.  Guaranteed.

Think on it.

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Vesna Babanovski - September 16, 2009 2:02 AM

Dear Emilly,

I joined Dr.Fuhrman's member center!!! I was able to find and read more of your transformation journey. It has been very helpful and sooooo encouraging for my journey to health and wellness. Today I was fixing tortellinis for my kids dinner and I was ready to pop one in my mouth. The thought of eating one just like that, casually, was suddenly magnified and I felt the pull of "it's not a big deal - just one". Then I remembered "Seeds of compromise sown into the soil of our lives will CONTINUE (in my case) a harvest of addiction. Guaranteed." Words of wisdom, Emily. I did not eat that tortellini! Yay for small steps!!!

Hanlie - September 16, 2009 2:36 AM

Thank you for this post, Emily! I'm going through a rough patch at the moment and my boundaries are suffering as a result.

Lois B - September 16, 2009 9:38 AM

Hi Emily,

I find that staying within my boundaries frees up my mind for other, more important things rather than worrying about why I made the choice to eat toxic food. I think of all of the time I've lost worrying about the food choices I've made. That's not the way I want to spend my time and energy. Choosing to refrain from careless eating establihes a confidence that I can maintain a healthy lifestyle and that I'm worth it. Small successes lead to healthy habits for life. I'm in!

Thanks for keeping me focused on the prize!

Jodi - September 16, 2009 4:40 PM

Thanks, Emily. Even though I'm veteran of Fuhrman's teaching and have resolved many health issues, I struggle at times with slip-ups and compromises. Then I beat myself up about it. I've printed out your words of wisdom as support both to not be so hard on myself for the slip-ups and also to prevent them from becoming compromises, leading to old addictions.

emily boller - September 16, 2009 5:34 PM

Vesna - Yeah! That's a GIGANTIC step towards freedom! Abstinence begets more abstinence which will continue to strengthen your resolve. You go girl!

Hanlie - You just made a huge leap in the direction of freedom by admitting your shortcomings, because denial gives power to addiction. Keep pressing on. You will get there as you fortify your commitment to optimal health by putting correct information into your mind. Cheering for you!

Lois - Right on ~ it's the small, seemingly insignificant successes that will establish healthy habits for life.

Elijah Lynn - September 17, 2009 12:09 PM

Good stuff Emily!

Barbara - October 2, 2009 6:27 PM

I am a newcomer, so please forgive my ignorance of the subject. My problem is mushrooms. Although they are highly recommended on this program, I have gout (uric acide in my blood). The only thing worse than mushrooms for gout are yeast rolls.

I am prepared to accept that this dietary program may eventually cure my gout, but is is okay to skip mushrooms until I reach that point?

Lindsay - September 6, 2010 8:57 PM

This is exactly what I needed to read, exactly the thought I've been working on, but hadn't quite gotten to. The inspiration I need. Never compromise. never sacrifice your efforts and your values for one thing, or even bend the rules. Bending leads to snapping, always. Once you've begun to compromise, you can't take it back. This can apply to many other things in life as well.
Thank you, whoever wrote this, because it's just what i needed.

Janet W - November 23, 2010 7:42 PM

I'm new to this program, and have faith in it, but am having a terrible time overcoming addiction to chocolate and coffee. I also feel deprived around dinnertime--lettuces, veggies, beans, etc. feel boring, plus I don't really like lettuce (yet). For years I have avoided eating salads. It's a wonder I am as healthy as I am. Yet I realize from eating proper breakfasts (recipes from Dr. Fuhrman's books), and eating fruits, beans, and salads, that they're tasty, although I cannot begin to eat as much as the books recommend (not because it's boring, but because I feel so full). Your article on compromise hits the nail on the head. I have come very close to giving up. I do need help at my age, which is nearly 80. Is it too late for me?

Monia - February 4, 2011 1:06 PM

I started on Feb.1, 2011 this week, I can truly say this way of eating has saved my life to being freeing me from food. It really helped me to taste food and see food for the color that it really is.

Hannah - March 18, 2013 5:24 PM

How I need those words. I have been trying to implement "Eat to Live" for 4 years, but keep making compromises when I feel stressed or sad, and the result has been overall weight gain instead of loss. I am to the point where moving is uncomfortable and I am not doing the things I want to be doing with my children because of my weight. How do I draw the line and make no more compromise?

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